I live my life walking a fine line between overly disappointed and incredibly happy. My emotions tend to fall to the extremes. I have a hot temper, I love with all of my heart and soul. I am fiercely loyal – almost to a fault. All of these things are an important part of making me who I am, but all of the extremes are due to not managing my expectations.
What I am is remarkably capable. One of the things I have accomplished is making a fabulous network of friends across the planet. None of them are similar, all of them bring out different parts of my personality to the light. One of these friends I met through a vindictive streak of mine. I had disappointed a friend of mine greatly, and he in exchange had disappointed me. We were angry at each other. In fact, if you ask him he probably still dislikes me a great deal. I’m now, indifferent. That said, my best friend contacted me in relation to him. We were acquaintances and she needed help. I helped, as best I could. If I weren’t angry, I probably wouldn’t have helped, but I was.
Over the years, she and I have become close. We have grown up together in terms of the adult world. We have navigated health issues, and become stronger. I mean, she ran a marathon for me – what more can you ask for from a friend?
As a part of this marathon, we worked together for fundraising for the Epilepsy Foundation. We fought to raise a decent amount of money for them. I had called, set up an account and had it earmarked for research only. As we were fundraising on two continents we both felt research was the only way to go. It was something that would help the planet, not just a small percentage of people who suffered.
Well, that was 2010. Recently, I emailed the foundation for an accounting of the funds. What research did our money go to? We were supposed to get an accounting of it at the time, but we never did. I’d been asked a few times, and I thought I would find out.
Sent: Monday, February 06, 2012 12:49 PM
Subject: FW: Donations given
Thank you for your recent inquiry. Below I have inserted the information you have requested please let us know if you have any other questions.
Public Health Education -16.3%
Professional Education Training- 1.3%
Community Services- 33.8%
Patient Services- 6.4%
Management & General- 12.9%
EFA Administrative Coordinator
Now, correct me if I’m wrong, but that’s 79.5% that is NOT going to research.
Let me be clear, when it comes to charitable giving I have high expectations. We made it clear when we started the donation page that *all* funds donated by our people were to go to research only I spent hours on the phone trying to get in touch with the right people, and then coordinating it with them. They assured me it wouldn’t be a problem. This lack of an answer irritated me to no end. I hit the Twitter explode button and I went off.
They saw the barrage of comments I tweeted, and they felt it within their best interests to DM me. They said “Hi Meg, we’d like to address your concerns. Could you give us your last name and email so we may contact you? Thx” I responded and I’ve heard nothing else from them. I’d like to say they’ll get it right, but… I’m managing my expectations.